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The thoughts and feelings about who you are and what you can and can’t do result from your experiences and conditioning and don’t determine what’s possible for you.
The bible talks and teaches about being perfected or maturing.
It’s similar to the personal development principle – the law of becoming. In that, each person is becoming, evolving, growing, maturing, and perfecting who they are. The perfecting and development happens through the dominant, persistent, conscious, and unconscious thoughts.
Stated another way, you’re what you thought you were yesterday. And tomorrow you’ll be what you think about today.
There is a quote by Bruce Barton that says:
“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.”
This quote means that courage, determination, and a conviction that you can absolutely accomplish what you put your mind to are standard equipment when you develop self-confidence.
Did you know that between you and what you want is fear?
The cool reality is that everyone has exceptional untapped potential for health, wealth, and happiness on the other side of fear.
The Big Question
So the age-old question: What would you do if you couldn’t fail? What if you were totally fearless of people, places, and things and believed you could act in your own best interest in any area of your life?
Limitless Self-Confidence
When your self-confidence is unrestricted, you believe in yourself and your abilities, set amazing goals, make big plans and commit to achieving targets that you couldn’t see yesterday. By any means necessary, you achieve and realize your dreams, make more money, lose weight, buy amazing houses and dream cars, and have healthy relationships with yourself and others.
You do what you want to do and don’t conform to the opinions of others. You define what your life looks like—living each day consistent with what you want.
You’re bold and creative. You organize your life and resources and design your life just the way you want.
Respect, Clarity, and Possibilities
Self-confidence changes your behavior. You speak with confidence and clarity. Communicating exactly what you want, which people recognize and respect. Opportunities and possibilities that you hadn’t imagined materialize because you believe in your ability and other people see the confidence.
Self-Confidence is Developed
Most people have low self-confidence in multiple areas of their lives. Just existing and doing what everyone else is doing. Unhappy and doubting their abilities. According to Abraham Maslow – people usually “sell themselves short.”
Negatively comparing yourself to others, dwelling on your weaknesses, and settling for less in life than you want, and what you could have if your confidence were higher.
A little-known fact is that self-confidence is developed.
You can enjoy high levels of self-esteem, self-respect, and personal pride. Self-confidence can be learned with practice. Little practice, little confidence. Great practice, great confidence.
You can build yourself up and be perfectly confident in any area that is valuable to you. I can teach you how.
Roots of Low Self-Confidence
Some people are equipped early in life with high levels of self-confidence learned from their parents or people in their lives. Most people start with entrenched feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. As a result of destructive criticism, lack of love, abuse, abandonment, and rejection, we grow up with diminished feelings of self-esteem, low self-confidence, and feeling “not good enough.”
This shows up in people working really hard to achieve success on the outside while deep down feeling like an imposter. Also known as “fear of success. What’s really happening is they feel unworthy, no matter how much they achieve. At its extreme is hopelessness – my mother committed suicide because her life felt hopeless. I wish I knew this information when she was alive.
Self-confidence is important – exercising your mind is as important as exercising your body.
You Want to Be Happy
Everybody wants to be happy – to feel really good about themselves. To have “peace of mind.” Feeling confident in your abilities to successfully maneuver through life and the daily requirements of living.
When you know what to think, say and do to be self-confident, you can create a routine, a habit of those thoughts, words, and actions to be put your self-confidence on auto-pilot. Program the behavior into our subconscious mind and live the life you desire.
Self-Confidence Requires Work
The last thing I want to say before I let you go is that self-confidence requires work. This isn’t something that you can watch a five-minute YouTube video and get up totally confident in every area of your life. That’ only happens on television.
Self-confidence requires work, repetition, making mistakes, and getting back up and doing it again.
Everybody can have self-confidence. It doesn’t matter how small or insignificant if it’s important and valuable to you, then you can gain confidence in that area. An extra benefit of developing confidence – once you’re confident in one area, you have evidence that you can have confidence in other areas.
Think about what I said, “What If?” and “Why Not Me?”